As Asian women leaders, we often carry invisible stress that comes not from our jobs or relationships, but from deep-rooted cultural and parental expectations we’ve internalized since childhood. In this episode, I open up a powerful conversation about how these inherited beliefs might be shaping your thoughts, behaviors, and stress levels—without you even realizing it.
🌿 This episode is for you if you’ve ever thought:
- “I’m not good enough, even when I achieve something great.”
- “If I’m not perfect, I won’t be loved or valued.”
- “My worth is tied to my accomplishments.”
🌟 In this episode, I share:
- My personal childhood story that sparked the belief “I have to be perfect to be loved”
- The two most common cultural expectations I see in my clients (and lived myself):
- High Academic Achievement: Feeling like your grades, titles, and achievements define your worth
- Heavy Criticism, Low Recognition: A focus on what’s missing, rather than what’s going well
💔 We explore how these expectations can lead to:
- Compulsive overachievement and workaholism
- Fragile self-confidence that fluctuates with success or failure
- Fear of failure, self-doubt, and difficulty accepting compliments
- A constant internal voice that says, “You’re not enough”
💛 But there’s good news:
Once you become aware of these patterns, you can begin to shift them. Awareness is the first and most important step toward change—and you don’t have to stay stuck in these old narratives.
✨ Key Insight:
You are not your achievements. Your worth is intrinsic. And it is absolutely possible to build a more balanced, fulfilling life—on your terms.
🎧 Coming up in Part 2:
I’ll explore four more common cultural expectations and how they might be impacting your stress, confidence, and daily decisions.
👉 Want to build your Grounded & Unshakable Confidence? I offer a free 45-minute clarity call to help you gain insight into where you are now, where you want to go, and what’s holding you back. If you’re ready to take action, email me at coco@nullcocoduancoaching.com.
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Until next time, remember: Be kind to yourself.