In this powerful and deeply personal episode, I open up about one of the most common and destructive patterns I see in high-achieving women: negative self-talk. If you’ve ever walked out of a high-stakes meeting thinking, “Why did I say that?” or juggled work and family only to feel like you’re failing at both—this episode is for you.
I share my own stories of spiraling self-criticism and explain the real reasons behind that inner voice. More importantly, I walk you through a simple but transformative 3-step practice to help you quiet your inner critic and rewire your nervous system so you can show up with clarity, calm, and confidence.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why negative self-talk is not your fault (and how it’s wired into your biology)
- How your nervous system responds to self-criticism like it’s a life-threatening danger
- The “second arrow” metaphor—and how we unconsciously add pain on top of pain
- Where your inner critic comes from (and how childhood voices become adult patterns)
- Why beating yourself up never leads to better results (and actually backfires!)
- The 3P Framework to rewire your brain and nervous system for confidence
Key Takeaways:
- Pause the judgment: Learn to catch your inner critic in action and create space between trigger and response.
- Pivot to kindness: Speak to yourself like you would a beloved friend—not a bully.
- Practice until it’s yours: Repetition is how your inner voice was built, and it’s also how you change it.
👉 Want to build your Unshakable Confidence? I offer a free 45-minute clarity call to help you gain insight into where you are now, where you want to go, and what’s holding you back. If you’re ready to take action, email me at coco@nullcocoduancoaching.com.
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Until next time, remember: Be kind to yourself.
