Every year, we start with the best intentions.
We promise ourselves:
This year will be different.
I really want to change.
I just need more discipline.
And yet… by the end of January, 88% of people have already quit. Only 8% stick with their resolutions for the whole year.
In this episode, I want to gently challenge the story you may be telling yourself — that you’re lazy, undisciplined, or somehow broken.
Because the truth is:
There is nothing wrong with you.
In this episode, I share:
- Why New Year’s resolutions fail for most people — and why it’s not a personal flaw
- Why discipline, motivation, and willpower don’t create sustainable change
- How we’ve been taught to treat symptoms instead of addressing the root cause
- A personal story about my failed attempt at meditation — and what it taught me
- Why productivity tools, planners, challenges, and “behavior hacks” don’t stick
- How your nervous system is wired to prioritize safety, not happiness or goals
We explore the real root cause:
Your nervous system.
I explain:
- Why being busy can feel safe — while rest, stillness, or self-care can feel threatening
- How early life experiences wire survival strategies that still run your life today
- Why habits like meditation, exercise, rest, or boundaries feel impossible — even when you want them
- How your nervous system will always “win” if you try to force change without safety
Real-life examples we unpack:
- Why meditation felt impossible for me — until I rewired safety in my nervous system
- Why many high-achieving women struggle to exercise, rest, or take breaks
- How caretaking others can become a survival strategy — and self-care can feel unsafe
What actually works instead:
- Creating nervous system safety first
- Changing survival patterns instead of forcing behavior
- Using somatic, body-based approaches — not just insight or mindset work
- Why real change can happen in weeks, not years, when you address the root
This episode is for you if:
- You keep setting intentions but can’t sustain them
- You feel busy, tired, and overwhelmed no matter how organized you are
- You understand your patterns intellectually — but still repeat them
- You’re ready for change that feels supportive, grounded, and sustainable
Free Live Masterclass Invitation
How to Not to Repeat 2025
3 Internal Shifts for a Different 2026
Happening Jan.20 at 7 pm ET
Use the link to grab your spot:
https://cocoduancoaching.aweb.page/transform-2026-free-masterclass
See you there!