UNCHECKING THE BOXES
Stop Proving, Pleasing and Performing to Live on Your Own Terms
About My Book - UNCHECKING THE BOXES
You’re not alone. I know that path well.
I was born into poverty in China. I worked my way up to become a senior leader in a Fortune 500 company—earning over $400K a year and building the kind of life I was told would finally make me happy.
I did everything right.
Checked every box.
Played the role perfectly.
But inside?
I was stuck in chronic fight-or-flight.
Burned out at work.
Walking on eggshells at home in an abusive marriage.
Because the same Good Girl conditioning that helped me succeed— be agreeable, work harder, prove myself—
was also the very thing keeping me trapped.
In July 2021, everything came crashing down. In the stillness of the pandemic, I finally admitted: “I can’t keep living like this.”
That moment changed everything.
I sought professional help, started my journey of Unchecking the Boxes, and went from being a Good Girl to a Badass.
Since then, I’ve:
- Fired Corporate America.
- Fired my husband.
- Fired the old me.
In Unchecking the Boxes, I share the raw, defining moments that led me to dismantle the life I built—and rebuild one rooted in self-trust, freedom, and real power.
Woven through my story is my 4R Transformation Framework—Regulate, Rewire, Reclaim, and Realign—a practical, no-BS roadmap grounded in neuroscience, psychology, and thousands of hours coaching high-achieving women.
Inside, you’ll learn how to:
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Regulate your nervous system so you can lead from calm, not survival
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Rewire patterns like people-pleasing, perfectionism, and over-performing
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Reclaim your voice, boundaries, and unapologetic truth
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Realign your life with who you actually are—not who you were trained to be
This book is for you if you look like you have it all—but know something is off.
If you’re done being the “good girl.”
Done proving.
Done shrinking.
And ready to become the woman who leads, lives, and decides on her own terms.