For years, I lived under the quiet weight of shame — the voice that said,
“You should be stronger.”
“You’re not good enough.”
“What’s wrong with you?”
When I froze in meetings, when I stayed in a volatile marriage, when I burned out and couldn’t make myself care anymore — I thought I was the problem.
But what I’ve since learned is that shame is one of the most powerful — and invisible — forces shaping our lives. It’s the quiet fog that drains our motivation, isolates us from connection, and convinces us that we are broken.
In this episode, I unpack the difference between healthy and unhealthy shame — and how understanding this distinction can set you free.
🌿 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
- The hidden ways shame shows up in high-achieving women as perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overworking
- The difference between healthy shame (which teaches and reconnects) and unhealthy shame (which isolates and erodes self-worth)
- How shame affects your nervous system, keeping you stuck in shutdown or self-attack
- Real childhood examples of how shame is formed — and how to begin healing from it
- A 4-step process to release unhealthy shame:
- Pause and ground – regulate your body first
- Separate yourself from shame – recognize it’s not who you are
- Release stuck energy – reclaim your voice and healthy aggression
- Break the silence – share your story in safe connection
👉 Want to build your Unshakable Confidence? I offer a free 45-minute clarity call to help you gain insight into where you are now, where you want to go, and what’s holding you back. If you’re ready to take action, email me at coco@nullcocoduancoaching.com.
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Until next time, remember: Be kind to yourself.